Some people love a big wedding. What’s not to love, right? The grandeur, the guests, the endless details coming together in one big celebration. But is a big wedding really for everyone? I have thoughts on this subject.
If you and your partner have always dreamed of a large wedding and can afford it, then go ahead – it’s your day, and that’s wonderful! The only potential problem might be not knowing enough people to fill those seats. But what if you love the idea of a big wedding but don’t quite have the budget to match? Or perhaps you have the money but don’t want the fuss? Maybe you love attending big weddings but can’t quite imagine hosting one yourself? The truth is, no one way is right – the perfect wedding is the one that suits you and your partner best.
Forget About Trends – Focus on What Matters
Wedding trends come and go, but your wedding day is about you. Pick and choose the elements that truly reflect your personal styles, preferences, and values. Your celebration will be special because of the love you share, the people who support you, and the memories you create together.
Remember, it’s not your responsibility to put on the most entertaining show of all time. Instead, focus on making it meaningful for the two of you. The joy and happiness will follow naturally.
Where to Start – Wedding Planning 101
A great way to start is by getting organised. Buy a packet of A4 envelopes and a folder or set up a digital document with different sections to track your plans.
Step 1: Brainstorm Together
Set aside time for just the two of you to discuss your wedding vision. Go big – dream up the perfect day, even if it seems impossible at first. When my husband and I were planning our wedding, we even checked out two small castles before deciding on a more elegant function hall at a local venue. Why didn’t we choose the castles? Not because of cost – surprisingly, they were quite reasonable! One of them simply didn’t host events, and the other was too exposed, with residential homes right next to it. We didn’t want to feel like we were putting on a public performance! So, after exploring options, we found a venue that felt just right.
During your brainstorming session, consider every detail – the wedding dress, flowers, honeymoon, guest list, music, transport, and food. Gather visuals like magazine cutouts, swatches of fabric, or even small keepsakes that inspire you. If there are family heirlooms you’d like to incorporate, make a note of them.
Step 2: List the Essentials
On a separate sheet, list everything you need for the wedding, such as clothing, ceremony venue, reception venue, transport, entertainment, and accommodation. Leave space for two columns: one for the estimated budget and one for the actual cost.
This is also the stage where you might identify elements you’d like to DIY or ways guests can contribute. Perhaps a willing and able friend can bake your cake, or a musician in the family can provide the entertainment. Embrace people's help if they offer. It's great if everyone has a chance to be a part of the fun and the celebratiion especially with personal contributions. Finally, remember that it’s your wedding – you make the final decisions.
Step 3: Think About Costs
Now that you have a clearer idea of what’s needed, start pricing things out. Make calls, compare options, and see if you’re under or over budget. If you’re under budget, you might be able to add a special touch. If you’re over, get creative – sometimes, a little ingenuity can go a long way in cutting costs without sacrificing beauty, effectiveness or sentiment.
Handling the Stress – A Fresh Perspective
If the pressure of planning feels overwhelming, remember this: no amount of money can control how people will respond to your wedding. Some will adore every detail, others might not even notice.
Your guests will eat, drink, chat, and enjoy themselves in their own way on the day. So, focus on what makes you and your partner happy. Those who appreciate your efforts will do so regardless of how grand or simple your wedding is. And if some guests are the type to get overly drunk or complain about weddings in general – well, that’s their issue, not yours!
Alternative Wedding Jewellery – A Thoughtful Gift Idea
While planning, consider the special people who will be by your side. Thoughtful, timeless gifts can be a lovely way to show appreciation for bridesmaids, close family, or even your partner. Lapanda Designs gemstone jewellery collections offer beautifully handcrafted and unusual pieces that make meaningful gifts for those you want to thank.
Why Gemstone Jewellery?
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Personal & Symbolic – Gemstones carry unique meanings, making them a heartfelt choice for wedding gifts.
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Timeless Elegance – Unlike trendy accessories, high-quality gemstone jewellery never goes out of style.
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Versatile & Wearable – A gorgeous gemstone bracelet or necklace can be worn beyond the wedding day, becoming a cherished keepsake.
Each Lapanda Designs piece is crafted with care and artistry, ensuring that the recipient receives something truly special.
The Perfect Wedding is the One That Feels Right for You
At the end of the day, your wedding should reflect your love story, not anyone else’s expectations. Whether you opt for a grand celebration or an intimate gathering, what matters most is that you and your partner feel happy, comfortable, and excited about the day you’re creating together.
How do you feel about big weddings? Do you thrive on planning or find it all a bit overwhelming? Let’s chat – I’d love to hear your thoughts!
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Warm wishes,
Amanda
